For the last few days I’ve been taking a shot at looking at what is so different about our generation of parents versus previous generations of parents. Here’s a quick re-cap:
- We blame our parents for all of our deeply embedded dysfunctions so we are certain our children are going to blame us for theirs.
- We have access to entirely too much information. None if it agrees which leaves us confused.
- Our entire lives revolve around our children. Needless to say, we’ve given up all of our control.
So, what are we supposed to do about it? Well, here’s what I’ve done:
- Start a therapy fund for Gus. There’s no way around it. I’m gonna screw him up. I might show him too much affection or not enough affection. I might be entirely to strict with him or way too lenient. I might show too much emotion in front of him or not enough. I could go on and on, but suffice it to say I’ll just drop money in the therapy fund when I deposit money into his college fund.
- I said it in my previous post, but I’ll say it again. I’ve thrown away my parenting books. Parenting is not a science and the more I accept this the happier I am. And guess what- I’m a better parent when I’m happy.
- Please don’t send me hate mail, but my entire life does not revolve around my son. He carries the biggest torch, but there are lots of other lights in my life.
I’m not saying previous generations had it right. But I think they did a few things right.